Women and men share a different vantage point on singleness. For the most part, if you are a woman and you are approaching 40 and you are single you might as well wear a scarlet A on your chest. Poor you, the lonely unloved soul that’s tortured everyday by looking at happy affectionate couples. Your singleness is your own fault and the guy you passed over is living happily ever after, along with the jerk you gave a chance. Singleness for a woman is the ultimate ugly. Now If you are in a dilemma right now on whether you should want to date or stay single, this blog isn’t for you. This blog is to simply state why being 40 and single might not be such a bad idea.
Accountability:
“Committed” Dating (sad I have to distinguish it) and marriage are very serious, although some don’t take it as serious as it should be taken. People say feelings get involved as if it’s a small thing. However do you know that love effects the same reactors in the brain as food & drugs? (No I’m not a scientist but you can look that fact up) Ask yourself how important is food in your life? Additionally although there is a lackadaisical view of recreational drugs, drugs in general are an important factor in life. The same when it comes with dealing with someone’s emotions. There is a level of accountability. Single people (as long as they remain honest) don’t have to deal with constantly breaking someone’s heart or not being loyal. Being responsible for someone’s heart is a big deal.
Freedom:
Some and I stress SOME married people sacrifice a lot. The mother in love & basket ball wanted to be a caterer but she had kids so she deemed that more important. How many wives you know were on a different path before getting married. Same with men. Some men were destined for the pros before having kids. You make sacrifices a lot when you are in a committed relationship and when you are married. Single life allows you freedom you don’t receive in a marriage such as travel, career change, spiritual effectiveness (ask me about it in a comment below), business risk, and more. You don’t have to answer to anyone. You don’t have to do things when you don’t feel like it. You are responsible for you and that’s it. You want to wake up and go to Rome, do it! You want to buy $700 shoes? Done! There’s no greater feeling than freedom.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side and if it is that’s because it’s fertilized with ****:
Do I really have to say it? No couple: married, engaged, or committed is happy 100% of the time. Contrary to popular believe, this whole notion that dating and getting married is the end all to loneliness and sadness is just simply not true. Want to know the ugly they don’t tell you when they post the pretty happy holidays pics from our family to yours; the word vomit they don’t release when they write a 2 paragraph status on how in love they are with their MCE/WCE? Try missing someone sitting right next to you. How about this, you think you’re lonely single, the loneliness is lit when you’re in a relationship and you’re lonely. Insecurities fly left and right, trust issues, jealousy (and not just of the opposite sex), infidelity, adultery, cheating, fights (sometimes with fist don’t act like it doesn’t happen), and low self-esteem. And I am just scratching the surface of marriage. Do I need to stop or shall I add additional issues when tax write-offs (kids) are included. Point is it takes two strong FORGIVING humans to be married. How is your grass looking?
Look, don’t let people dictate to you that 40 and single means you are destitute and mis-fortuned. I always say for women love is Russian Roulette with at least 3 chambers loaded. Sometimes we get it right on the money and sometimes you’re better left single. There are huge pros to being single. Like the fact that you can sleep knowing no one is cheating on your or even contemplating it.
That last line is just something all single women say lol. Hope you enjoyed this blog. Comment below if you did and even if you didn’t. Happy #LeapDay
-❤️ #TotallyRandie