Everyone has a preference, maybe he likes thick women, maybe she likes men with beards. Maybe she doesn’t like short guys, maybe he doesn’t like women with short hair. Either way someone will always be beautiful to someone and someone will always be ugly to someone. What you deem ugly doesn’t matter, because if a man is ugly to a woman, he can make her laugh and feel safe and he’s no longer ugly anymore. Same for women, some qualities make men who would otherwise see her as unattractive start to see her as beautiful. Then, there are some uglies that transcends physicality. It is something that people can’t charm their way out of. It is the type of ugly you can’t dress up or spray cologne on, it is the type of ugly that can’t make you laugh. It is simply….Ugly.
Broke
My mother used to tell me “When I am feeling my worst, Thats when I look my best; get dressed, do your hair, and put on some make up.” When my company laid me off a year ago thats all I heard; playing like a broken record, “when you’re at your worst, look your best”. Not knowing that my life style would immediately change. Unemployment only pays a percentage of what you were making. It couldn’t have come at a worst time either because I had lost a lot of weight and donated my old clothes. It was as if I was walking in a snow storm fully clothed and then all of a sudden the weather started to change. I had to start removing layers: happy hours, credit cards, travel, personal items, and finally 24 hour fitness was the last to go. Your entire lifestyle change. I went from bathing with bath and body works to dishwashing liquid (ok it didn’t get that bad but you get the point). I was broke. How could I dress up this ugly? My insides were dead. The longer it took me to find a job the more depressed I became. I didn’t want to be around anyone, and any little thing would set me off. I was incurable of this disease called unemployment. On top of that none of my endeavors were working out. I began to gain weight again, and no matter what I did I couldn’t stop. How do you ask someone to love that. How do you ask someone to look at you in all your ugly state and to stay there and be there, to find the beauty that you can’t even find yourself. It doesn’t matter how beautiful a person is physically, being broke can make them ugly.
Infidelity
Pretty Ugly. Breaking someone’s trust this way makes them extremely ugly. You could have only done it one time and that hurt and pain just festers away. It makes love hard because you could sneeze and it reminds them of what you did to them. A street name, a drink, a smell, anything could take them back to that pain, and there you are reliving it. It makes them ugly, because not are they finding it hard to re-trust you, they too are going thru it. They may question themselves like “was I dumb for staying, will he do it again, was I not enough, am I still not enough?”. Insecurity replaces that once confident man or woman you adore. Jealousy because the daily battle. Looking someone you love in the face and seeing resentment is ugly, its not pretty. Can you do it? Can you love them thru their pain no matter how long it is? It doesn’t matter how beautiful a person is physically, infidelity can make them look like a rotten banana dressed in precious stones.
Death
In my opinion Death Is the Ultimate Ugly. Infidelity can be healed EVENTUALLY. Even being broke doesn’t last forever. But death, death changes people. That ugly enemy of human kind plagues us. When someone we love dies or someone we mistakenly kill dies, it has the ability to change us. Accidents happen everyday, a little brother finds his father gun and shoots his little sister, a man tries to rescue a woman out of flood waters and he too gets swept away. No time, no person, no amount of money can heal the pain of never seeing your loved one again. Due to living in a 6-15 second society, we aren’t even given time to grieve properly. Because of that we grieve over time causing pain at times to others subconsciously. Every step of the way through your journey thru life will at some point cross a path with the thought of that person. There is only getting to a place where we can function again. Until then, how do you ask the person you love to stay and deal with that? To deal with your night sweats and nightmares, mood swings and depression? It doesn’t matter how beautiful a person is physically, death can make them hideous.
Its real easy to love someone beautiful. Its hard to stay when the person you love is ugly. When you are struggling to see their beauty because their eyes have lost hope. Their smile is being washed away by tears. Their energy is being zapped by depression. Some ugly seem to last for eons. The last thing you can do to this ugly person is leave them. It is during these times when they need you the most. If you find someone who loves you ugly, hang tight to them. They have a heart of gold. They are who your parents and grandparents dreamed of you one day meeting. Hang on to them, they are the ones who will in turn love you ugly as well.