Love and Relationships will always be a hot topic. It seems like everyone have the answers yet no one have the answers when it comes to love. I was on Facebook today, like most of america unless you’re my brother and don’t have social media (yes people like that exist), and I saw a classmate and long time friend of mine state how she didn’t believe in love anymore. Immediate the comments started but no one gave her a definitieve solutions for her expression. Then she said something that made a lot of sense. She stated:
“You can’t make your heart feel something but u can choose to be around someone…that’s why there are so many mismatched couples they choose something that they can see but don’t feel…hogging someone else soul mate”
It really made me think. How many people are in relationships for the wrong reasons with someone out there who might be perfect for them or the person they are with. Here are a couple of ways to tell if you are being hogged, or if you are hogging someone else’s soulmate.
If I fuss, it means I love you
4. How often do you argue? Every one goes through ups and downs but arguing every week or every other day with the person you is supposed to be your soulmate is a high indicator that something just isn’t right. Figure out what it is. Is it you? Is it them? Can it be fixed? If not that person is for someone else, not you.
All my Exes live in Texas
3. Do you think of other people? You are in a relationship with someone you think is your soulmate right? So when problems arise does your mind wander to another person? Do you randomly have thoughts of an ex, or of what could have should have been? Have you ever thought to yourself “man if only (insert name here) was single I would be with them. If you have any of these thoughts, the person you are with is not your soulmate, and you are wasting your time and theirs. Set them free to find someone
R.E.S.P.E.C.T.
2. Do they respect you? Couples say mean and nasty things to each other. Especially as time goes by. However, they know whats World War III and whats not. When you argue does he/she bring a gun to a knife fight? Look at how that person treat their family and friends. Now ask yourself, do they treat you worst? Do they say things to crush your heart and spirit? Are they uplifting? Do they encourage you? Motivate you for the better? Do they insight ambition? Do they light a fire in you? If not, you are being hogged.
Match Point!
1.People loving screaming RELATIONSHIP GOALS! They want matching cars, matching passport stamps, matching shoes, matching ambition, matching hustle, matching beauty. You know what they forget about? MATCHING FEELINGS! Does his/her feelings match yours? Does she feel that same intensity towards you that you feel towards her. Is he just as passionate about you that you are about him. Does his heart beat for you like yours beat for him. When you are in a relationship, especially saying this person is your soulmate, your feelings match each other. They love you NOT like you love them, but equally on the same level. If you can’t even relate to what you are reading right now, why are you in a relationship with the person you’re with? If you can’t tell your person how much they mean to you, why are you with them? Set them free for someone to love them the way they deserve to be loved.
So whats next? The hardest thing to do is leave someone you love/want. However for the betterment of your future and theirs, if you know these things are showing you that you are hogging someone else’s soulmate, SET THEM FREE. Who knows, you might just meet your soulmate as well. Don’t do something just because you are comfortable. Don’t stay in a relationship because you don’t want to start over or because you are familiar with them. Stop hogging someone else’s soulmate.